I've thought about changing my name since before I was married. I used to think about how I would feel about having a different last name when I was in high school. I used to wonder if I would ever get used to someone calling me by a different last name. For some reason, I gave it a lot of thought.
I've been married three years and I don't really have any true desire to change my last name.It's such a hassle! I really don't want to have to change my passport. Not only will it cost $100, but I have a great photo! Seriously, my photo is very cute. I had my photo taken before they made the rule that there's No Smiling in Passport Photos. Did you know that this is a rule now? I know, it's dumb.
I also don't look forward to having to change my name on each and every bill I have. It's hard enough to get them to understand that my physical address (at which I do not have a letter box and therefore cannot receive any mail) is different from my mailing address. It's an incredibly time consuming process to explain this to every bill collector. I don't want to have to change my name too.
Last, but not least, I don't want to wait in line at the DMV (with a baby, no less) any more than I have to. I learned, when flying home from vacation a couple weeks ago, that my license is expired. So, I guess I could just do it all in the same trip, but it's not likely to happen.
Even though I don't want to change my name, I think there's something slightly romantic about the whole thing. I would also like to share the last name of my child. (He has his father's last name.) It's not really a big deal right now, but I think it might be when he goes to school. Especially where we live now. It's uncommon for women to keep their maiden names when married.
All the same, it's not likely to happen anytime real soon.
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I have been married twice and changed my name the first time and the second only hyphenated. I wish I had just stuck with my maiden name both times. Not only is it very time consuming to change everything when you get married but to do it again when I got divorced was just as painful. Even though I was reclaiming the part of me that will always be mine. Also I will never share the same last name as all of my children(I would have to do some serious hyphenating) and you know what, I'm ok with that. My children are fine with it as well. My children have their father's names which is a choice I am happy with, but giving up my name was something I was never entirely comfortable with. Do what is right for you.
Heather Wall. Heather Wall. Heather Wall. Hmmmmm..... Idk.... I liked my maiden name. I wish I hadn't changed it. I do like The Wall Family. It is cute. Love you, love me.
Thanks for the support ladies! I think I'll keep it for the time being. Maybe I'll change it, one day. Maybe not... I have a romantic connection with the idea of changing it. But not so much so that I am motivated to go ahead and do it.
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